I’d like to share something quite personal with the hope that it will encourage others, especially other girls. Like many people, I have wondered (and sometimes struggled) with wanting to fit an ideal picture. Maybe it’s partly society’s pressures, maybe it’s a carryover from being in the modeling industry, maybe it has to do with things from my youth, or the expectations I try to meet today, but many times my insecurities come up.

I often wonder what perfect is, as society has such strong views on this and advertising influences us daily to think the same way. I’m sure us girls see a beautiful model on a photo shopped image in a magazine and view that as perfect. Someone else picking out the best qualities from the various people they meet might think a person who is smart, kind, affectionate, attractive, fashionable, thoughtful, passionate, no baggage, no troubles, likes cleaning, likes cooking, only talks about cheerful things, never complains, enjoys sports, is motivated in all the right areas, is ambitious, loves coming home after a hard days work to listen to us talk about ourselves, and went to a good school passing with honors is perfect. Trouble is, just like my examples above, a lot of us have an unrealistic view of what perfect is, in fact I don’t think perfect exists.

I have many times drafted a mental check list of what I need my friends, my boyfriend and my own personal requirements to be, only to end up utterly disappointed. As I continued to compare myself to others I found I was continually disappointed in myself. As I continued waiting for a partner straight out of a Hollywood romance, I found myself equally disappointed and forever waiting.

It’s funny how the more we chase perfection, the more it seems to run away from us..

As time went on I started testing a healthier perspective. Why compare myself to others when we are all different and I am already blessed with so many things? Why Wait for the perfect person to come into my life when I can be challenged by their imperfections, and learn to appreciate their unique qualities more? If God gave me someone like himself to date, then I would never need God again. I believe we live in an imperfect world for very good reason. None of us were made perfect to begin with. In fact we were made with chubby scrunched up faces, screaming for attention regardless of the time, then we grew up taking lessons from various imperfect people in an imperfect world. How could that teach us perfection?

Romans 3:23
For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.

I know I beat myself up occasionally wanting certain things to be different, more selfless, a better person, smarter, a fitter body, less eye bags (to name a few), but I’ve learned to seek perfection in the only thing worthy of comparison. Our perfect God. When I compare myself to him, I find myself not looking for perfection as much in worldly things and seek more of the values that would bring me as close to perfect as possible. And although I will never quite get there, at least I am chasing the wisdom from someone that builds me up rather than tears me down and in the arms of someone who loves me regardless of my imperfections, yet knows how to lovingly discipline me when I go wrong.

Proverbs 26:12
Do you see a man who is wise in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

Worldly perfection at some point will tell us we are not good enough no matter how hard we try or where in the world we try to find it, where as Godly perfection will encourage us to make full use of our unique potential designed perfectly for us. Worldly perfection makes us quick to judge others while we assess whats lacking from our checklist, making us all ‘just not good enough’. The funny thing is, none of us are good enough. This reminds me of a verse not to judge others or we will be judged too.

Luke 6:37
Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.

Although I still sulk at times when things don’t go my way, I have come to love the differences in people, and even appreciate the times I am not immediately fed attention when I need it (or at least think I need it), as it reminds me that I am not here to simply receive from others, but at these times, as well as seeking more wisdom from God I can also focus on how I can give more myself to others as I work on being a better person. This has the interesting effect of making me less worried of my imperfections, while expecting less from others too.

I know that as long as we seek God truly, I mean give him our whole heart and not just some of it while following his teachings, we will be well on our way to being the best version of ourselves possible. Only then will we be on the road to being as perfect as we ever will be. I’d like to think that the more I seek God and the more I rest in God, the more perfection (or the idea of it) will be nothing more than a day spent with my equally flawed friends and family, in an equally flawed world all chasing a perfect father that promises us a world full of hope for a bright future, and a perfect place to retire in.. One day..

Colossians 3:12-14

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.